Today I woke up feeling deflated.
It can be easy to fall into a spiral of self-doubt, especially when we spend a lot of time scrolling, comparing and skipping the rituals we know make us feel good.
I know in these moments I can come back to tools that change my perspective, so that I can shift my state in a moment and pick myself back up.
Here are 3 things I reminded myself of in my moment of self-doubt and sadness. I give myself compassion and acknowledge my feelings, much like I would for the people I love. Yet the greatest love of all is shown through empowering yourself to rise above, to do the things you know support your mental and emotional health. So rather than sit in low vibrations, I expand my thinking and lift my energy.
These reminders immediately changed the way I was feeling about myself and allowed me to change the trajectory of my day. These reminders are always here for you too, whenever you need them.
You are you and that is your power
Often we sit and scroll, comparing parts of ourselves to others. The more we compare, the more we forget about our own unique strengths and abilities.
You have something so special within you, something unique to you. Spend less time consuming and thinking about others and more time discovering what it is that makes you, you. We seem to spend time studying everything but ourselves.
The most important topic to understand is yourself: what makes you tick, what strengths you hold, what impact you can make. Another light shining doesn’t dim your light, it just creates a brighter light. The more you focus on yourself, the brighter your light will shine.
What are you interested in?
What brings you joy?
What are your strengths?
What skills and talents do you have?
How have you made a positive impact on the people around you?
How could you expand more of your unique gifts and strengths?
Feel the fear and do it anyway - action is the antidote
The voice of self doubt can make following our dreams feel overwhelming and scary. When we listen to the inner critic that tells us we aren’t good enough and allow it to hold us back - a downward spiral of insecurity can take us over.
Action quietens the voice of self doubt. When we feel the fear and do it anyway, we expand our comfort zones by showing ourselves what is possible. As we continue to take steps forward, our inner critic loses its power.
In moments of doubt, take action in the direction of your dreams - the person you want to become and the life you want to lead. Whether big or small, action is the antidote.
The video below shows an ant getting trapped in a ‘pen circle’. We can all see that the ant can travel out of the circle with ease. Our self doubt acts as the ‘pen circle’ in our minds - an invisible barrier keeping us small. When we take action and step out of the circle, we see that it was an illusion all along and instead, give ourselves opportunity to flourish.
Seek markers of possibility - if they can do it, you can do it too
Doubt can make us feel alone on our journey. We feel as though we aren’t capable, we aren't enough.
Comfort is found in knowing that someone, somewhere has done what you hope to do. When we listen and read about others who have started small and overcome challenges to ultimately create wellness and success in their lives - we're reminded of the strength that lives within each and every one of us.
Seeking the guidance from those people makes the path become a little clearer. Finding role models reminds us that our dreams are possible. If they can do it, you can do it too. Limiting beliefs can create doubt, yet our mentors become markers of possibility by expanding our minds, reminding us of what is possible when you persevere and believe.
Come back to these reminders whenever the feeling of not being good enough, smart enough or capable enough overwhelms you. Let this remind you that you are enough exactly as you are. The doubt in your mind is lying to you. Keep moving forward, keep growing and keep supporting and uplifting yourself along the way.